Gossip is evil

This is a letter to my son, Aiden, just in case if something were to happen to me, he would get to know me a little bit more.  This is also a form of therapy for me.  I am writing out whatever is on my mind and heart.  Somehow in the end, all feels right.

Letter #3

Dear Aiden,

This is something unfortunate to explain but I want you to know that people are not always what they seem.

Not all people are generous all the time.  People do not always have the best of intentions.  Whether they are your family or friends they may not always be the best person they can be.

I’m not telling you this to make you feel like you can’t trust people. No, I want you to trust people. I want you to live genuinely.  Just know, that sometimes people mess up, including those closest to you.  There are many evil temptations in our world…temptations like drugs, alcohol, gambling, peer pressure, materialistic fashion, keeping up with the Jones (you will meet a lot of wannabes, but you will notice your parent’s are not one of them).  There is also greed and gossip.  One of my biggest pet peeves you will find if you haven’t already is gossip.  I don’t believe in talking about people to others.  It is a very destructive.  Gossip is evil.

You see, gossip is a lot like the game telephone.  You may play it some day.  It starts with one person telling a second person a message.  That person then tells another person the same message what they got out of the first message and this message keeps getting passed on to more and more people.  However, this message can be interpreted differently by each person, or heard wrong, or exaggerated and a false message ends up being out about someone or something.

Personally, I find gossip to be real destructive.  It is hateful.  People’s lives get hurt from it.  Messes are created and real hurt is experienced for what benefit?  None whatsoever.  When I hear gossip or others talking negatively about others or comments like “did you hear about so and so who is.” I tend to leave the conversation.  Don’t become a part of something as evil as gossip.  It ruins people’s lives. It may not seem like it is harmful or hurtful, but it is. Gossip is pure evil.

I prefer to talk about ideas, not people.  Think BIG, Aiden, no matter what life throws at you.  Don’t follow the gossip train.  Don’t spread lies about people, families, businesses, or anything.  Those lies that are being spread by people are massive wounds to the soul.  You can’t mend ones spirit easily with a cast or medication. It takes real spiritual healing, time, a LOT of time and a lot of mental self talk.  So please, oh please, beware of those that gossip and don’t get sucked into it.

Gossip is all around you.  Your own family members may do it not realizing it out of habit. You will be around it in school.  Our society lives and breathes off of gossip about Hollywood entertainers.  The world of gossip is a full time job for some, but not for your momma.  So my advice is to not pick it up as a hobby because it will keep you happier not having anything to do with gossip.  It won’t be fun having to convince to yourself that you are good person; you will just know that you are.

So Aiden, moral of the story: Don’t get on the gossip train.

I Love You

Mom

(Alisha)

Does gossip irritate you?  Have you thought about how destructive it is? 

If you have anything that you would like me to write to Aiden about that is a struggle in your family/life, or a subject that you are unsure how to approach please tell me about it.  I will write out my thoughts on the subject to Aiden, and maybe it will help you.

2 Responses to “Gossip is evil”

1. Peggy Leino says:

   September 6, 2011 at 1:13 pm

   Alisha,
   As always you hit the nail on the head. You are awesome as is Aiden is going to be. Gossip is all around and you are the only one that can control yourself and obstain from gossiping. You are inspiring so keep on writing!!!
   Peggy